New Blog

So I was thinking...now that I have this new career, I should write about it.

I'm going to create a blog dedicated to house buying topics. It's a great idea if I should say so myself. Who knows, maybe one day I can add the link to my business card.

So I'm off to create a new blog...wish me luck!

Oh yes, I will keep this one. I'll be back to post about something for women.

Until next post!

New Career

I've been gone awhile, but here am I...

I got my Real Estate license and am now--well--selling houses. It's going well so far, considering I got my first listing in the first month of business.

I like driving around showing houses. I never thought I'd end up selling ANYTHING in my life, but this is actually a bit different. One can't exactly talk people into buying houses, for liability reasons. One simply has to be one's wonderful self--as am I--provide great service--as I do--and show as many houses as possible.....

I'm waiting for my first sale...it'll be so exciting!

Well, until next post!

Final Tip: #6--on How to Toughen Up!

I do believe this will be the last tip, but I may just come up with some others as life goes on and I learn a thing or two.

Build a relationship with God.

Yes, I'm getting into 'religion' but please, it's my blog; get over it and continue reading, if you so wish.

Okay, we all know lots of people are "religious" as they have been for many, many years. However, consider that I'm referring to a "relationship" with God; one in which you can bring your burdens to Him and walk away free. A relationship to our advantage if there ever was one.

I have been saved for over seven years now, and one of the best things about salvation is that I can take my problems to the altar, and leave them with God. I can pray, confess, repent and ultimately end up with a clear mind, conscience, and an invigorated sense of life.

For those of you who think that religion is "a crutch for the weak," try living a true life of Christianity; it's a very narrow road, hence a difficult one to follow.

Do men really bounce back?

Sorry about the interruption between tips, but I had #6 almost complete and somehow lost it. I'll get back to it.

So anyway, I've been thinking about it for the last couple of days.

Do men really bounce back?

I don't think so! Seriously, I have a couple of friends, myself included (he-he), whose husbands don't bounce back the way they're "reportedly" supposed to. What happened? Has something gone wrong? Has God's original balance of emotions among Adam and Eve gotten ahh--debalanced? Love the new word--verb: debalance!

The balance went like this: out of all of the emotionality distributed at creation, God gave ALL of it to Eve .

But, it seems something's going wrong. Ah-got it! Everything in the world in becoming very unbalanced. You know, things are getting debalanced all the time. Men don't work as hard as they used to, women don't cook as much as they once did. Men don't mind looking like women, even when they're not homosexual. Women are rising up way above their heads.

Oh, the signs of the end times.

So back to my point...men don't get over problems/fights like they used to. They hold on, and hold on, and reference the problems months ahead. They're acting more like women nowadays. What can we do! It's just another one of those things of which we have no control over.

Oh well! Go figure!

Tip # 5...

Have a close friend.

As in tip #4, I want to remind you that you are not alone. How do you know you're not alone? Get a friend who has as many, or more, problems than you do...JUST KIDDING!

Seriously, if you have a close (true) friend whom you can confide in, whom you can share your downs without having pity parties, whom you know will encourage you in your time of need, you will be a stronger person.

If you don't have one of these already, I'll tell you how to get one...

Pray, pray, pray---This leads to tip #6.

Next Topic: Tip #6

Tip #4...

Know that you are not alone!

Nope! No matter what you go through, whether with your husband, kids, friends, co-workers, family, etc. you should know that you are not alone.

Knowing that a friend is going through the same things we are often helps us get through things differently. It reminds us that we are not alone in this cold world, that the universe (or Satan, really) doesn't have something against only us.

This leads to Tips #5 & 6.
Next Post: Just that, tip #5.

Tip #3...

Expect little or nothing.
I'm sure you've heard the famous quote, "If you expect nothing, you're apt to be surprised." This deep little bit of insight to life's obscurities can help toughen up your frail emotions--more so than you can imagine.

Think of all the people who have let you down. (Please note: I'm not encouraging any grudges). People fail each other all the time, we're merely human. You've let a lot of people down too. Now, they let you down clearly because you expected something from them. That's an easy problem to solve. Expect little or nothing.

I say 'little or nothing' because there are expectations you simply cannot avoid. However unnecessary, you will require certain things from your husband or loved ones. But, if your expectations of others are minimized, their failures won't phase you so as to scar your spirit/emotions/heart.

When others do exceed your very minimal anticipations, let them know how much you truly appreciated them for it. If they don't even meet your smallest needs, try again. Don't give up on all of your trust and hope.

Tip #4: Next Post...

Tip #2...

Agnize that you are not the center of the universe.
The world does not revolve around you. The sooner you learn that painful truth, the happier you'll be. As someone who used to think she was God's gift to the world, I know this is a tough one to come to grips with.

This is important because when things go wrong as they will, you need to know that things don't have to happen the way you want them to. When life's shortcomings smack you in the face, it's okay. While you may be special to God and your loved ones, which include a lot of people, you mean nothing to the rest of the world. That may sound a little rough, but think about it...

Tip #3: Next Post.

How to Toughen Up! Tip #1...

The last post led me to this. A (very close) kin always asks, "How do you do it? How do you just not care? How can you be so cold-hearted?"

I will attempt to share a few personal tips over the next few weeks, though I doubt they are anything uncommon.

Tip #1: Don't ever take anything personally.
This may be the hardest thing to understand as people are under the impression that most everything in life is a matter of personal issue.

When anyone does anything wrong to you, don't take it personally. Always remember, it's not your problem that a person is the way he is. It's theirs. Ultimately, it's between him and God. Each person is accountable for his actions.

This, I believe, originated from my conceited heart. Though I must say, it has saved me a LOT of grief. I used to think that I was--well--perfect, and everyone around me had problems. However, I've come to realize that I have flaws, but so does everyone around me. We all have problems, they're just different.

Tip #2: Next post...

Toughen up, Ladies!

I want all of you married ladies to think back to the last day you cried your husband to sympathy. The last day he saw those tears in your eyes, and was so moved by compassion, that he overwhelmed you with his emotions and the ability to soothe your pain.

Ahh yes, the days of old--when one measly tear overpowered the situation at hand. Whether he had done or said something to hurt you, or it was something else that brought you the unbearable pain, he held you back to comfort.

Okay, now ladies, wake up! Those days are gone--never to return. You have got to come to grips with reality. Either you toughen up or die a slow, painful, sorrowful death. Okay, it may not be that bad. But, you have to admit it, it's a sad case to be emotional.

I've been blamed for being cold, heartless, having no emotions, blah-blah-blah. But, what was I to do? Would I be willing to cry myself to sleep, by myself, for the rest of my life? Oh no, not me! My husband trained me well. He taught me, probably within a year of our marriage, that he would not cater to the crying and the unnecessary emotions. Sure, he handled it for a little while, but wouldn't have for too long. And so, I subdued my emotions to the subtle training he gleefully provided. And now I am this all-powerful being who refuses to cry over life's shortcomings (except for animated movies--go figure!).

So, ladies, toughen up. Don't let yourselves drown in an ocean of uncatered feelings. Besides, crying is a manipulation tactic all men seem to have caught on to. They are no longer falling into that trap. Give it up!

Now, if you've been married for a long time and are still catered to when revealing your emotions, please do reply and let me know my friends and I are just unfortunate fools.

Disclaimer: I have a wonderful husband. I thank him for helping me conform into this rock I am today. Even he can't stand my emotionless being! MWAAHAHAHAHA!

Next Topic: How to Toughen Up!

Decent Discipline

I've decided to post this one a little further down the road. Perhaps I'll get a little more enlightened on what I'll share in relation to this.

For now, I'll be moving on to a couple of topics that have lingering in my mind today.

Learning to Drive Again

After about eight years of having my driver's license, I've ventured into learning to drive a stick-shift/standard. Is there a proper name for those cars anyway?

Hubby has had this kind of car before, but I'd never cared to learn to handle the darn thing. As it turns out, however, my van has been giving me a lot of problems these last couple of months. So, it was necessary that I drive the hubby's car.

Now, I'm not one to stress easily, but I tell you, driving that thing sure stresses me out. I'd come home with a headache after driving it for even a few minutes. This went on for a couple of weeks. The funny thing is that, while it stressed me to no end, I also had a lot of fun with it. I'd literally drive and laugh my head off while the car gave me whiplash, shut off on me, and scared my kids half to death.

But, I've overcome the evil little four-wheeler. I've triumphed! What an accomplishment!

Now, if I could just convince my mom that it's safe to ride with me.

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There's an evil doer going around blogger and commenting anonymously on our posts just to add his link of total useless information. I couldn't even look through the site--a list of uhh--total useless info. It wouldn't be so bad, if he were in fact commenting on our posts. He/she complimented my graphics, my nice pictures, my very helpful information. Nonsense! I don't have such on my blog.

Which reminds me, I'll be getting with my sister soon (the family photographer) and practicing on my picture-taking techniques. I believe I'm the most unphotogenic person in the world. Bad, just bad! So, practice, practice, practice, I will.

I figured I have to get at least a couple of decent shots before I publish my first book. You know, I want my picture on the back cover.

Anyway, ciao for now!

Barefoot on Holy Ground

When the Angel of the Lord appeared to Moses as a burning bush, Moses was wearing (on his feet) what was common in those days -- sandals. At the command of The Lord, Moses took off his sandals. He was walking on holy ground--no shoes needed. I guess we'll be walking barefooted in Heaven. This is fine and dandy by me, though I must admit, I love shoes. Walking barefoot in church is a whole other story.

Please, oh ladies, please don't walk barefooted in the church. Not now, not yet.

It's just not a decent sight to behold, unless, of course, it's typical in your church. It's rude because it's not common practice in a church setting where good manners should be at the utmost . It's disrespectful because, well, respect should be at its max. You wouldn't take off your shoes at a ball. You wouldn't take them off at say, a fancy business party. You get the point.

Okay, taking your shoes off at your seat to air your feet, or rest them, or massage them (gross), or whatever reason for is almost understandable, though for a lady, still not pleasant. But, getting out of your seat, barefooted, to go to the bathroom and spank your child, or blow your nose, or whatever reason for is just not cool. Well, you may think it looks cool, especially if you're the only one doing it. But, this unpleasant action tells us a little about you. You're rude and disrepectful. There, I said it.

And no, I'm not an extremist, so I'll accept that this doesn't always apply. I'm sure not every woman who does this is crude, though I cannot imagine a lady with class doing this.

Ladies, ladies, please remember, modern decency is probably at the lowest it's ever been, only to continue falling. Don't follow the trends. Reach deep inside and find the woman you really want to be (see Ladies and Modern Decency).

Ladies, until next time. Keep your shoes on!
Next topic: Decent Discipline